Anxiety pushes us to plan and prepare. We are doing that already: staying well-informed (while limiting our news and information consumption) and following guidelines for physical distancing and handwashing. The call to action in the previous blog post helped me find other things within my control and feel like I am still living as fully as possible in our current context. Even so, there are moments when anxiety and worry vine their way through the cracks in the foundation. So much of current circumstances during this pandemic, and during our pre-pandemic lives, is outside of our control.
We can transform the power of imagination that helps drive anxiety. Often our brains cannot distinguish between something that is really happening and something we are just imagining. Whatever it is we are worried about has not happened yet, and may never materialize, but we imagine it so vividly that our bodies react as though it has: breathing gets shallow, muscles tense, the jaw clenches. Let’s use that power to calm the body.
During the development of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) clinicians found that bilateral stimulation (BLS) could activate and strengthen clients’ internal resources (e.g. patience, resilience, perspective taking) helping them feel better able to manage their emotional distress. Clients would bring to mind the images, sounds, smells, and felt sense of being in a calm place, with a caring person, or back in a pleasant memory, as clearly as possible and begin to tap alternatingly on either side of their bodies. This could help with falling asleep, calming down before doing something challenging, or taking a break from strong emotions. You can try the meditation exercises below to strengthen your own inner abilities. Each meditation follows the same steps, below:
Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down. Close your eyes. Imagine whatever internal resource you would like as vividly as possible. What do you see? Hear? Smell? Feel? How does that experience show up in your body? When you have a strong positive feeling, begin slowly alternating right-left tapping on the tops of your knees or by crossing your palms in front of you, hooking your thumbs together, and resting your palms on your chest, slowly tapping on your chest like the flapping wings of a butterfly. Check in with yourself. If something does not feel right, stop right away. You may continue tapping for as long as it feels good to you.
Choose your focus:
Go to a Calm Place: Bring to mind a place that feels calm to you, whether real or imaginary. Maybe it is a tropical beach you saw in a movie, the kitchen of your childhood home, the site of your dream vacation, or the first place you will go when you can leave the house again. Imagine the breeze, the smell of cookies baking, the novelty of travel, or the familiarity in visiting your favorite place in town. Notice what signs your body gives that it is relaxing. Add a few slow taps while you notice.
Reminisce About Spending Time with Loved Ones: Especially during this undefined period of physical distancing and limited social interaction, recalling the felt sense of being with loved ones can fool our brains into feeling, in this moment, like we are connected to them in a closer way. Recall the warmth in your chest and arms that you felt during your last hug or bring to mind the encouraging words of a friend. What felt so good in those moments? Notice that and add a few slow taps.
Recall Accomplishments: In the loss of employment many people have lost their sense of self, defined through their work and sense of accomplishment. In addition to using this time to explore other facets of yourself, you can tap in past experiences of accomplishment. Recall how it felt to be recognized after completing a project at work or to finally understand a difficult concept in a homework assignment. Do you feel yourself sitting up taller, pulling your shoulders back, raising your chin? Notice that. Play the memory through while you notice the sensations in your body and tap left-right.
Come back to the here and now. Take a moment to notice the sensations in your body. Going into your imagination for just a moment can shift how you think, feel, and behave in a productive way. Throughout the rest of the day observe that expanded sense of capacity. Are you approaching tasks with more ease, confidence, or from a different perspective? Notice that and let it carry you forward. If you recalled an accomplishment during the exercise just now, you might try visiting your calm place before bed tonight. Experiment to find out what works best for your life.
Jordan Jones, LICSW
Edited by Nehjla Mashal, PhD
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